According to the Pew Research Center, more than 30 percent of kids live with a single parent. Despite the prevalence of this situation, however, it is often treated as though it is abnormal. If you are in the midst of a separation or divorce and are preparing to become a single parent, you can know you are not alone, and you can also make the process easier by following some simple tips. These suggestions can ensure you make the transition as smooth as possible for yourself and your children.
Take control of your financial situation
One of the greatest challenges facing single parents is the sudden financial shift they must deal with. Without two partners to share household expenses, it can be stressful to face the costs of housing, groceries, bills and all your children’s necessities. Make a budget, stick to it and find a job if you need to do so. This can help you eliminate the stress a lack of money can cause later on.
Maintain your daily routine
As you and your kids transition from a two-parent to a single parent household, one of the most stressful factors is often the uncertainty that accompanies change. You can maintain normalcy and minimize your children’s stress by establishing a daily routine. Such practices often help kids adjust, but the reliability of daily tasks can help you adjust as well.
Take advantage of your support system
As you are going through your divorce or separation, you hopefully have the support of friends and family who are helping you overcome bumps in the road. Parenting is hard enough, but when you are a single parent, you will need help from those around you. Do not hesitate to reach out to your support system when you need to. Accepting assistance from others is part of parenting when you are single, and your friends and family are surely happy to help.
Encourage positivity and optimism
It is not uncommon for parents and kids alike to experience depression or anxiety following a separation. Such a major change is bound to have emotional consequences, but you can combat this by actively encouraging an environment of positivity and optimism. You might also try meditating and getting involved in new activities as a way to control your emotions and feel better in general.
Divorces and separations are never easy, but with these tips, you can make single parenthood a little less stressful. Contacting an attorney for legal counsel can make your divorce easier, too.