No matter where you are in the divorce process — or what type of relationship you had and currently have with your ex — this is a question that you will either ask yourself or someone else might ask you as you go through divorce. Why can’t you talk things out and just make some cooperative decisions about support, child custody or property division?
Outside of situations where you are experiencing a threat, this might seem like a fine idea at some point. You were once married to this person happily — at least for a few moments in time. At some point, you probably talked and made decisions together. Surely if you both decide to be rational about it, you can do that again.
The truth is: Yes, you should communicate with the other person when you are going through a divorce. Open communication lines can actually save you a lot of money and help you resolve issues without going through drawn-out court battles. The flip side is: You should be careful when you do this communicating. Being too open can put you at risk of being taken advantage of.
There’s a reason you sought a lawyer in the first place for your divorce, and that reason was probably to protect your interests and help you through what can be a complex and daunting process. If you communicate constantly with your ex outside of your lawyer’s knowledge, you could put some of that protection at risk. While you don’t have to use your lawyer to create a stone barrier between yourself and your ex, consider consulting with a professional before making offers and decisions with your ex about major divorce issues.
Source: Divorced Moms, “4 Thoughts You Will Have During a Contested Custody Case,” accessed Oct. 14, 2016