The time after a divorce can be very difficult for some people, even those who don’t regret the divorce at all. Below are some tips that can help you get through this and feel great as you more forward in your life.
First, remember to focus on things that you enjoy. Don’t just throw yourself into work for 16 hours a day and spend the rest of your time sleeping. Take the time to read books, watch movies, go for walks, take vacations and do other things you love. This helps to show you that life can still be fun and rewarding, even on your own.
It also helps to adopt a lighthearted mindset. Try not to take little things too seriously. Don’t hold on to bitter feelings from the divorce. Again, this all comes back to enjoying your day-to-day life. It’s crucial to put energy into this, especially when you don’t want to.
Find a support group. This doesn’t have to be an official group. It can just be friends and family members. Reconnect with people you haven’t seen as much as you would have liked. Don’t be afraid to ask parents or siblings for help. If you have them, spend more time with your kids. The loss of social companionship can be hard, but remember that your ex wasn’t the only person in your life. You can have a strong social life with others.
There are going to be big changes after divorce, such as split child custody schedule and financial changes. Make sure you understand all of the legal ramifications of the split. Getting these things in order can reduce stress and help you relax.
Source: Psychology Today, “Seven Ways to Thrive After Divorce,” Mark Banschick, accessed Sep. 23, 2016