Going through a divorce is hard enough when you are doing it alone. If you add in a child who is old enough to understand the divorce, things might get even more complicated. Not only do you have to make sure that you are faring well, you also have to make sure that your child is also faring well. Our readers in Nebraska might be interested in learning about some tips that can help them to help their children during and after a divorce.
One thing that might make it easier for a child to deal with a divorce is going through therapy. A therapist is an impartial party who can look from the outside in to help your child adjust to the changes that are coming. It can also be beneficial for you to go through therapy because you will have someone to help you through the frustrations of dealing with the spats between you and your child's other parent as you deal with issues regarding ending your marriage.
Children will have a lot of questions during and after a divorce. Those questions can be difficult to answer, but giving honest answers that don't put your ex in a bad light can help your child to process the divorce. Questions might include those about whether the other parent still loves the child, whether you still love the other parent and whether you will ever get back together might come up. Being prepared ahead of time to answer those might help you.
There aren't any one-size-fits-all answers when it comes to helping a child process a divorce. Helping the child to see the positives and acknowledging your child's feelings might help. Making sure that you aren't too stressed out because of the divorce can also help. One way to minimize stress is to make sure that you understand the divorce process.
Source: The Huffington Post, "14 Questions My Son Asked About My Divorce And What I Answered" Feb. 17, 2015