In 1954, a Nebraska girl discovered she was pregnant at age 19. She struggled with how to manage raising a child in a generation of mores and values that did not take too kindly to single teenage mothers.
She was left with an agonizing decision. The baby’s father would not consider marriage, so her options were limited. She remembers a friend in a similar situation who was ostracized at church as a young unwed mother.
Society in the 50s didn’t know quite what to do with an unwed single woman who was to have a baby. So the baby was put up for adoption. Before she could see him, he was taken to a foster home.
The foster home took care of the male baby before parents officially adopted him a year later. The man reminisces how different things were back then. He is proud to say he is adopted.
After several name changes, and moving around, he got married and had a son of his own, settling down and enjoying martial arts.
The mother also moved on, she married, and had a life and family of her own. Her husband knew about her past.
With the help of her family and some coincidental luck, she was able to reconnect with her son.
When both parties expressed interest, adoption agencies rallied for support, and were able to orchestrate a meeting. After some verification and paperwork, the relationship was sealed.
Mother and son were reunited after 60 years and on her 80th birthday. From the beginning, it felt like family.
Not all adoption stories in Nebraska have happy endings. Times have changed, but it is still difficult to adopt and still challenging to deal with society’s acceptance of adoption.
Many couples seeking to adopt children need help from an experienced party so that they can present a solid case to convince the courts they will be competent and loving parents.
Source: The Daily Reporter, “Mother reunited with son in Nebraska after giving him up for adoption 60 years ago” Maegan Detlefs, Aug. 17, 2014